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comment: It’s easy to overlook the central reason for the event you’re planning -
that is, the wedding ceremony itself. You have a huge range of options for the content of your ceremony, which will be strongly influenced by your choice of ceremony officiant.
I recommend that you chat with as many different officiants as possible, by phone or email, and meet with at least three of them before making up your mind. Try not to make price the deciding factor - in my experience, the less you pay, the less input and control you’ll end up with.Don’t feel embarrassed into choosing a Celebrant you’re not really comfortable with simply because you don’t ‘click’. It’s important that both you AND your fiancé are completely comfortable with their style and manner.
Your Celebrant will be able to guide you through the process of writing your own vows [should you wish to do so] and bringing together different elements of your ceremony, such as readings or blessings, involving members of your family, etc. Bear in mind that it is reasonable for a church based minister or Celebrant to require that prayers or other religious elements are included in your ceremony. A Civil Celebrant may have some similar philosophical preferences, but should make these clear from the very beginning.
It should go without saying that TV and movie weddings don’t really reflect what really happens at kiwi weddings! A well planned wedding should have minimum drama, and genuinely reflect your relationship, not just whatever is currently trending on Twitter...
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